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DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by DepartedLight » Sat Oct 14, 2017 6:28 pm

I didn't know where to put this.

Plans to meet my cousin by end of month. This will be the first blood relative face to face I have had since 1986, when I saw my brother last. I haven't see this Cousin since 1975 at best. Cousin just got back from visiting my parents. I have not seen them since 1982.

I am terrified.

But I am going to do it.
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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by JimVH » Sat Oct 14, 2017 6:55 pm

No advice, but I'll pray for a positive interaction.

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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by Rusty » Sat Oct 14, 2017 7:12 pm

I think this is called pinging the estranged black sheep that disappeared. You're right to worry.

Male or female cousin? How close were you back when you last set eyes on the cousin? After 40 years they may not recognize you.
If you were not close all, ie barely knew each other, then it'll be like meeting somebody new that just happens to know others in your family. If you were ever close then you may be in for a lecture, esp. if your cousin is female. Family is expected to stay in touch. That's just the way it is.

Look at the upside... if they piss you off enough then it's a good guess that they'll never hear from you again.
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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by sweetandsour » Sat Oct 14, 2017 8:27 pm

JimVH wrote:
Sat Oct 14, 2017 6:55 pm
No advice, but I'll pray for a positive interaction.
+1.
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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by DepartedLight » Sat Oct 14, 2017 8:31 pm

<Cease and Desist, please>, Rusty.
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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by hugodrax » Sat Oct 14, 2017 8:31 pm

sweetandsour wrote:
Sat Oct 14, 2017 8:27 pm
JimVH wrote:
Sat Oct 14, 2017 6:55 pm
No advice, but I'll pray for a positive interaction.
+1.
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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by Del » Sat Oct 14, 2017 9:28 pm

hugodrax wrote:
Sat Oct 14, 2017 8:31 pm
sweetandsour wrote:
Sat Oct 14, 2017 8:27 pm
JimVH wrote:
Sat Oct 14, 2017 6:55 pm
No advice, but I'll pray for a positive interaction.
+1.
Another +1-er.
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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by Roadmaster » Sun Oct 15, 2017 5:20 pm

The only advice I have is to not listen to Rusty.

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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by hugodrax » Sun Oct 15, 2017 5:44 pm

Roadmaster wrote:
Sun Oct 15, 2017 5:20 pm
The only advice I have is to not listen to Rusty.
That is excellent advice.
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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by DepartedLight » Sun Oct 15, 2017 7:36 pm

Roadmaster wrote:
Sun Oct 15, 2017 5:20 pm
The only advice I have is to not listen to Rusty.
I love me some rhodie all the time.

Coins, friend. Treasures.
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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by UncleBob » Sun Oct 15, 2017 7:53 pm

One word:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3H6amDbAwlY

It's been mediating family events for decades.

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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by FredS » Mon Oct 16, 2017 8:04 am

This is tragic DL. I had no idea you were estranged from your family. I'll pray that this meeting goes well and that reconciliation can begin - If it's safe for you.
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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by sweetandsour » Mon Oct 16, 2017 8:10 am

FredS wrote:
Mon Oct 16, 2017 8:04 am
This is tragic DL. I had no idea you were estranged from your family. I'll pray that this meeting goes well and that reconciliation can begin - If it's safe for you.
+1, again.
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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by DepartedLight » Wed Oct 18, 2017 8:35 pm

It will be this Sunday sometime when Cousin and cousin spouse get settled.

Of all family relations, this one is well worth reconnecting. Cousin is an amazing human.

Thank you for putting up with my crazy.
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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by Bloodhound » Thu Oct 19, 2017 1:29 pm

Will be praying
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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by DepartedLight » Sun Oct 22, 2017 8:54 pm

My cousin is the light as always been. My aunt has lost a lot of memory. Long and short term. 2nd cousin was very happy to see me. Spoke to another cousin on the phone while at a noodle house, or shack or whatever.

There’s a bucket full of kin up close to Ashville.

Going to be road trips.

And that’s all I have to say about that.
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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by Roadmaster » Mon Oct 23, 2017 7:13 am

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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by Cliff » Mon Oct 23, 2017 8:34 am

Glad to hear that all went well. Best wishes for the trips. CONGRATS
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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by FredS » Mon Oct 23, 2017 2:07 pm

It's a good beginning. Follow through.
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Re: DL to meet Cousin soon

Post by Bloodhound » Mon Oct 23, 2017 2:27 pm

Congrats on getting that "Door" opened up.
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