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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by John-Boy » Tue Jul 10, 2018 6:09 pm

2-dot's boyfriend came over to ask me permission to propose to her. I gave him my blessing.
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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by Winton » Tue Jul 10, 2018 7:11 pm

Cool!

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Cool!
Yep.
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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by ReverendThom » Tue Jul 10, 2018 8:43 pm

Congrats. Prayers for that young couple!

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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by Roadmaster » Tue Jul 10, 2018 8:51 pm

I'm assuming she said yes.

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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by JMG » Tue Jul 10, 2018 10:04 pm

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2-dot's boyfriend came over to ask me permission to propose to her. I gave him my blessing.
As a dad of three girls, I need details, man. Spill it. What do you think about this guy? Why's he good enough for your girl? Is this the Dot that I sent an arrow to? How did this whole thing go down?
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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by Jake » Tue Jul 10, 2018 10:32 pm

Sweet.
Praying for you all tonight.
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Sweet.
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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by JohnnyMcPiperson » Wed Jul 11, 2018 5:49 am

Yes, what JMG said, details, as the now father of two girls I’m dreading this... granted I’ve got awhile. I’m thinking I’ll use the keep your friends close and enemies closer tactic and befriend every guy they bring through the door, how did you handle it?


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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by Bloodhound » Wed Jul 11, 2018 9:34 am

Congratulations...it is a wonderful and dreadful and wonderful...Praying
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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by John-Boy » Wed Jul 11, 2018 10:00 am

JMG wrote:
Tue Jul 10, 2018 10:04 pm
John-Boy wrote:
Tue Jul 10, 2018 6:09 pm
2-dot's boyfriend came over to ask me permission to propose to her. I gave him my blessing.
As a dad of three girls, I need details, man. Spill it. What do you think about this guy? Why's he good enough for your girl? Is this the Dot that I sent an arrow to? How did this whole thing go down?
JohnnyMcPiperson wrote:
Wed Jul 11, 2018 5:49 am
Yes, what JMG said, details, as the now father of two girls I’m dreading this... granted I’ve got awhile. I’m thinking I’ll use the keep your friends close and enemies closer tactic and befriend every guy they bring through the door, how did you handle it?
1-dot has the arrow. She's heading out this weekend to Greece to work with Syrian refugees... but that's another prayer request. This is 2-dot.

I think the guy is a good guy. We've known him for a number of years. We've also known that this was coming. 2-dot has shared that her/their plan is to move towards marriage. A few months ago the guy texted me and asked to drop by a little early, even though 2-dot wasn't home yet. They were going to be going to dinner and he was close to our place and didn't make sense for him to go home and come back. I thought sure he was going to ask me then. I cleaned up the place, put on clean clothes... turns out he was just coming over early. Though it's possible that he chickened out. Anyway. He scheduled this meeting about a week ago. He made it for a night he knew 2-dot was at a concert and gone for the evening. He also asked that I not tell 2-dot about the meeting because he wanted it to be a surprise. So this time I knew for sure.

He came over last night and after 1-dot and JackJack made themselves scarce he expressed he love for 2-dot and his desire to marry her. He talked a little about their faith and their shared desire to marry. My intent was to encourage him and bless him rather than make him suffer or have to prove himself, so my first response was yes, he had my and my wife's persmission. Our approach has been to talk openly and honestly about all this ahead of time, so there's no big surprises when nights like this come. I shared with him how when 2-dot was little there were times when for a variety of reasons she would throw a fit and be unconsolable. I remember some road trips as a family where I would sit in the back of the mini-van and just hold her until she calmed down. I told him that I'd already seen him providing that care for her now. See the car accident on page 1 of this thread. So I told him I respected him for including me and my wife and could see his love for the Lord and his love for 2-dot and was excited for their life to come. Then we talked about practical stuff about their plans, but not as hurdles for me to agree, just more about sharing what was going on.

I guess this is the best case scenario. We know and respect him. He loves the Lord. His family loves the Lord. They've welcomed 2-dot into their family. The guy is comfortable being with us and being a part of our family. He's not the kind of guy that seems to be taking my daughter away from her family. Etc. Etc.

I still feel pretty sad.
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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by rgcurrey » Wed Jul 11, 2018 10:55 am

he loves the Lord and loves your daughter. Praise be to God for his many blessings.
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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by SlowToke » Wed Jul 11, 2018 1:34 pm

Congrats I guess.

This thread hits home for me. My 16 year old started bringing "the boy" around several months ago. He's a good kid and he and his family go to our church. That being said, I try to be the scary dad but it just doesn't work because I like him and he's stuck around despite my scary dad tactics. I suppose we will see. I really dislike this part of being a dad of daughters. I'm dreading the day a boy asks if he can marry my daughters. It's a great sign for you and your daughter that he asked your permission.
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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by JohnnyMcPiperson » Wed Jul 11, 2018 1:51 pm

Oh gosh, just thinking about this makes me a little teary eyed, I can’t imagine, but you are lucky, seems like a nice guy! I pray for my two regularly even though we are a long way off, I know the day will come.


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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by FredS » Wed Jul 11, 2018 1:53 pm

Being the scary dad just makes you a dick and neither your daughter or her boyfriend will be honest with you for long if you take that route. They just go on the down low and that's never a good thing. You can't pick who they love but you can be a good model and pray she holds out for a good dude.

Praying for the young couple.
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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by JMG » Wed Jul 11, 2018 1:55 pm

John-Boy wrote:
Wed Jul 11, 2018 10:00 am
I guess this is the best case scenario. We know and respect him. He loves the Lord. His family loves the Lord. They've welcomed 2-dot into their family. The guy is comfortable being with us and being a part of our family. He's not the kind of guy that seems to be taking my daughter away from her family. Etc. Etc.

I still feel pretty sad.
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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by Winton » Wed Jul 11, 2018 5:57 pm

My nephew recently started dating a girl. When he went to her house, her father was cleaning his gun. My nephew started asking questions about cleaning the gun and other details then he asked when he could go with the father to learn how to shoot. I think that was a good response.

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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by Thoth » Wed Jul 11, 2018 10:12 pm

God bless and may He complete it.

You could have made him sweat a little, maybe just paused for a minute before replying. Things are/were little more formal for us cultural since both our fathers are very traditional; so my family went to hers for dinner to formally request that Mrs. Thoth be my bride. So my dad makes a request with lots of praise for Mrs. Thoth. Her dad then sat silent for what seemed an eternity but probably not more than 30 seconds, maybe a minute at most before replying, he was just thinking of an equally nice response. But at that time I literally broke out in a sweat and looked across the room at my wife with confusion and perhaps a little panic.

My daughter is barely 2 and I already had to deal with boyfriend issues. I can only imagine it will get worse...
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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by JMG » Thu Jul 12, 2018 12:56 am

Thoth wrote:
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My daughter is barely 2 and I already had to deal with boyfriend issues. I can only imagine it will get worse...

I'd straight kill a kid. (I edited this commit.)
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Re: Parenting my girls

Post by Jocose » Thu Jul 12, 2018 1:00 am

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